It Ends With Us – A Personal Review and Shared Thoughts (Spoilers Alert)

Title: It Ends With Us

Author: Colleen Hoover

Pages: 367 pages

Publisher: Atria Books

Year Published: 2016

Genre: Fantasy, Young Adult, Romance

Major Awards: Goodreads Choice Award for Romance (2016)

Summary: on Goodreads

Book Rating:  ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥/ 10


This book has really touched me in a way that Hopeless did. Well, I’m always like this whenever I read books. I always love to empathize with the protagonist. But this time, I think I actually feel what Lily felt.

“There is no such thing as bad people. We’re all just people who sometimes do bad things.”

The moment this book was released I’ve always wanted to read it because I love Colleen’s work especially Hopeless Series but then I became so busy and was able to read it just a few days back.

I’m very confused while reading this book. At one point in the book a hated Colleen for making Ryle like that. I’ve already pictured him as the Mr. Perfect guy who would heal all the wounds of Lily’s past. Then that first incident came and I was so devastated. I began to believe what most abused women would feel that maybe that won’t ever happen again. That Colleen won’t allow that to happen, that in the end he will change and there will be happily ever after for them. Well, I was sooooo wrong.

When I read the “Author’s Note” in the end, it suddenly dawned on me that there are really a lot of domestic violence happening in the world right now. I started reading this without even knowing that this will be the plot of the story, I should have read this sooner. Sorry for the spoilers.. I really can’t help it.

“Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It’s not a person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.”

I want to apologize for this part of the review, I can’t help sharing my own Naked Truth.

A few years ago, well seven years ago, I was in the same situation, well, not to that extent, but I was abused physically and verbally while I was pregnant with my youngest daughter. I know if only I have shared this experience with my family sooner they would have told me to leave him the first time he ever laid his hands on me but I decided to kept everything to myself because of love and hope. Hope, that maybe one day he will change. Love, for him and for my daughter, because I want her to have a normal family unlike her elder sisters.

Women who love an abuser will always have their own excuses not leaving the person who’s hurting them and every time that happens the abuser will have their own excuse to hurt them and the cycle won’t end. I wish, I and all other women who were abused by the man they love, were as bold and strong as Lily. Not all men are like Ryle, who had gone through the toughest time while he was young, some are merely drunkards, abusers who have nothing better to do in their lives but hurt the woman they said they love. Well, if you’re wondering what happened to us. I left him but not because he abused me before but when I became an OFW, I realized so many things that I wasn’t able to see when I was with him and then slowly my feelings for him faded because I realized I deserve better but the memory of what he did to me will always have a scar in my heart.

“Don’t be like me, Lily. I know that you believe he loves you, and I’m sure he does. But he’s not loving you the right way. He doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved. If Ryle truly loves you, he wouldn’t allow you to take him back. He would make the decision to leave you himself so that he knows for a fact he can never hurt you again. That’s the kind of love a woman deserves, Lily”

I would say exactly the same thing to my daughters someday if ever they will be in this kind of situation but I always pray that they will not. I don’t know what I’m capable of doing for the sake of my daughters.

“It’s easy when we’re on the outside to believe that we would walk away without a second thought if  person mistreated us. It’s easy to say we couldn’t continue to love someone who mistreats us when we aren’t the ones feeling the love of that person.”

Lily is an epitome of the modern time hero. Many women would learn a lot from this book. That leaving while you still can would be better than once you’ve been submerged too deep that you won’t even have the strength to walk away.

“Even though there was a slight possibility that Ryle could have eventually changed for the better, some risks are never worth taking. Especially when those risks have failed you in the past.”

This book is a highly recommended one specially for WOMEN not just for those like us who had experienced this the hard way but also for the awareness of others and to stop judging your fellow women who were not as brave and bold.